WHAT IS REAL LOVE & HOW TO GET IT? – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 136


Ever wondered what real love is in the depths of loneliness, despair, or an argument with someone you are “supposed” to love but feel the furthest thing from love at that moment. 

Well, I asked ‘you’ what real love is and these are the answers you gave me. Yes, they are shortened but you get the gist. The complete list is mostly on this thread so check it out to get the essence of what each of you shared. I am honored to be on this planet with all you LOVERS loving boldly and courageously even when it’s hard.

And although real love may be ice-cream and bacon on some days, other days it’s a lot deeper.

After 10 years of studying love, living from love as best I can each day (yes there are ups and downs and some days that look far more “loving” and “expanded” than others) I continue to be awed by the power love has in all its many forms and expressions.

Please share what real love is to you.

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Love, love, love


The Difference Between “True Like” and “True Love”

I love getting questions from readers.

Todays question is; What is the difference between “true like” and “true love”.


Putting the true in front of it is a whole other question. So let’s start with the difference between like and love.

People often think of love as romantic, and there should be criteria for love but… this is not always the case.

You can feel love for someone or something instantly and I am not talking about infatuation, I am talking about having an open heart and feeling and connecting to another human being or even a tree or cloud. All things are emanating vibration and energy and by connecting to it/them, and feeling it, and sending your own love out to it, and feeling their energy and receiving it… this is the exchange of love.

Described like this, it is possible to love everything and everyone. And, I suggests trying it out just for fun and feeling how this feels.

Like, on the other hand, is similar in that you can feel good vibes from someone or something and you like them, you feel an affinity to it or him or her. So yes, you can like someone instantly too, and you do all the time right?

I remember my dad would always say, “Just because I love that person, does not mean I like what they are doing.”

This has always stuck with me, especially regarding relationships. I love past partners dearly and always will, but, I do not like the things they do and just because I love them, does not mean we need to be together. 

Love has nothing to do with being in a romantic relationship or partnership. The first criteria does not guarantee the last.

When you put true in front of love or like, this is no different than not having true in front of it. Truth is an arbitrary thing that is only yours, and it can change, contrary to popular opinion.

When people talk about love they often put true in front of it, true love, to imply that it is deeper than another love. But, love is love. There is no unconditional love, or true love, there is only love.

So, when it comes down to it, you can put true in front of love or like, but, that only means what you want it to mean.

If you take the word away, and feel into yourself, and trust yourself, you will see that all like is true, and it might change, and that is okay. And, all love is true, even if it changes.

From my point of view, for love to be true… it needs to be honest, meaning you are really connecting with this person because you want to connect and give and receive without expectation or wanting from them, if there are other motives involved and you only love them when they can give you something, like safety, or love, or feeling wanted. Then this is not really in alignment, it’s probably love with a whole lot of programing on top of it obscuring the ‘truth’ of what love really is.

So true love; loving purely for the sake of connecting to another, feeling their love, and sending your love out to them, with no thought or expectation of what follows.

True like; really liking someone or something and being honest about your feelings.

Please let me know if this was helpful or not. And… thank you for the question. I always appreciate them and keep them coming. 

love love love


Entrusting Feminine

The feminine heart is the seeker of love.

The divine feminine is the entrusting guardian of love, as you give it, and penetrate her heart so deeply with your masculine gifts, then only is she able to surrender completely into your love, opening like a flower and blessing you with her true essence and adoring overflowing love.


She flows like the ocean, moves like the wind. Her moods and actions reflect this as she is in, one moment, and out another. Her moods can change in a instant, and so can what she wants. She is open and free, she moves with grace and radiance as she fills her world with wonder. Her supple body and supple ways inspire you and entice you.


The divine feminine essence is strong and powerful, she knows what she wants and is not afraid to take it, yet does so in an elegant dance of play and energy. The goddess knows the balance between her strength and her allowing. She knows her feelings and her heart, and is guided by them, being true to her deepest yearnings and desires.


Women love, ‘love’. She loves to talk about it, read about it, watch it manifest in movies and TV shows. Her relationships are key and she focus’ on them constantly always seeking to refine and enrich them.

This is woman.

Love Love Love

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Is Love Enough To Stay in a relationship?

Have you ever asked yourself, if you would still be with the one you are with, if they did not give you what you wanted?  The obvious answer is no, of course you would not.  Now, I’m not saying you get every little thing you want.  I’m talking about those pivotal things at the cornerstone of who you are, and the experience you wish to experience at this time in life. If you don’t get them, or foresee them in the future, sooner or later you will be gone.

This is just how it works.

When it comes to these pivotal issues of importance, love has nothing to do with it. You may have the fullest love you have ever experienced but at times like this…. love is not enough.

So, can you have it all?  We have all stayed in relationships longer than we should have for all sort of reasons, but I believe the trend is changing as people realize they can have it all. You can have that deep love and the values you desire all wrapped up in a nice little package.

So why is it you actually stay with your lovers and partners? Is it because of love, or is it because they provide you something deeper?

Now let’s not kid ourselves, as humans we do nothing unless there is a payoff. That payoff may be feeling good for what we are doing, or we may actually get something physical or emotional in return. Whatever the payoff may be, it’s always there.

No one likes to admit this fact about our carnal animalistic natures. You like to think you are better than that. You are not, stop kidding yourself.

When it comes down to it, love has nothing to do with it. Love is blind. Love is fickle.  Love is often a contrived idea not based in anything tangible, but rather something you make up in your mind to feel better about the empty or unfulfilling relationship you may be in.

You are in the relationship because of what you get from it?

If you cannot give me the safety I desire in a relationship, I will leave sooner or later, no matter how much I love you or you love me. If you cannot give me children, I will leave.  If you cannot give me deep emotional connection, I will leave. If you cannot give me that house, that car, that adventure, that little thing that just set’s me off in a world of bliss… I am gone.  Maybe not today, but you might as well pack up today because it’s already over.

You are human, you are an animal, and your needs, desires, and passions will win out, even over love. This friend is reality.

It wins out, because your true gut instinct is what will guide you to your deepest truth, and your fullest happiness.

If something feels off, it probably is.

Accept yourself as an animal. Put away those childish, higher than thou ideas of putting up with something that is not 100% your truth because you love the person, or because you can rise above, or because you can make things work.

Stop kidding yourself and the word!!

Take the whole shebang instead of settling in the name of enlightenment. You have real needs, real desires, and real passions that can all be met with the added bonus of love.

Is this self-serving, is this cruel and even heartless?  Maybe, or maybe it is the most heartfelt thing you have done in a long long time.

love love love,


ps… please leave a comment. I want to hear your thoughts on this!!