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Attracting The Right Partner (Being Yourself Fully!!) – LoveExpanded Challenge 148

For all you mystical people out, or you with particular gifts, and are disappointed you are not finding someone compatible or on your vibration, this video is just what you were looking for.

Attracting The Right Partner

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Love, love, love

Salenta

BALANCING POLARITY IN RELATIONSHIPS – Masculine vs Feminine Energy | LoveExpanded 137

BALANCING POLARITY IN RELATIONSHIPS – Masculine vs Feminine Energy | LoveExpanded 137

Let’s get first things straight – masculine and feminine energy have nothing to do with gender!! But it has everything to do with balancing polarity in relationships.

Cultivating both of these energies within you, gaining maturity in both energies, allows you to play with a full toolset of both the creative (feminine) and the implementation (masculine) enriches and builds a successful life.

It allows you to draw on the strengths of both, being firm but flexible, being logical and confident, but open and reciptice to new ideas. The play between these two forces in your life is constant from the moment you wake up to the time you go to sleep again. Being aware of how each influences you allows power to gain influence over yourself and understanding of your partner. You become the badass you know you are. And your relationship dynamics start to shift.

The video sums it up.

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If you desire to learn more about the masculine and feminine energies within you I have worked extensively the last 10 years both personally and with clients to understand and utilize/integrate this concept into their lives, I cannot begin to explain the difference even the awareness of this makes, let alone the implementation. 

Love, love, love

Salenta

Uncovering Myths In Love (Conscious Love) – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 7

Uncovering Myths in love is a huge subject and this is by no means an extensive list. This is my experience with others and my own expectations within these myths. It’s also the beliefs around love that have messed me up. People like to measure my credibility by my relationship status. I’ve gotten comments like “As soon as you get married your business will really take off.”. It’s taken me a while to not only work through this but for me to believe that my relationship status does not say how good I am at being loving.

Uncovering Myths In Love

The first myth is that if you are in a relationship you are successful at love – I call bullshit. If you are in a relationship you are successful at being in a relationship. This does not mean you are successful at being happy in a relationship, or healthy within a relationship or even loving in a relationship. All it means is you have an agreement with another person at this time. Of course, this agreement can involve love and joy depending on who you are and how this agreement looks.  But relationship status on its own is not a measure of love. 

The second myth is I can only be ‘In Love’ if I am in a relationship – again, bullshit, this is a very outdated way of looking at love. The whole idea of conscious love is that I work at being IN LOVE first no matter my relationship status.  From this place of love, which I have uncovered within myself, now I can share the love I am with another and share in the love they are. I do not need them to ‘Be In Love’, I am already love.  If I am looking for love from another I am bound to be disappointed, let down, betrayed and all the other baggage that comes along with these sorts of relationships.

Third, my expectations define the parameters of my relationships and what I desire to experience – Truth is, expectations are the number one killer of love within a union. I am as guilty as the next person of this and have learned the hard way that if I am expecting him to show up in a certain way, or expecting the relationship to look a certain way I am setting myself up for heartache, disappointment and resentment. Not only that, when a relationship is built on expectations I am disconnected from the natural flow of the union and trying to make it into something it may not be. Either way, the relationship will be founded on disconnection instead of flow.

What To Do Instead!

  1. Know Yourself – when you first meet someone you desire to know all about them, have you done this with you? Do you know who you are? The better you do the easier it is to find the love within you.
  2. Find love within yourself – yes this is a journey, but so is life. To reveal the love within you sometimes it takes removing the pain, heartache and all the ‘stuff’ that is not you. When I say ‘stuff’ I mean false beliefs. Clearing away the faulty beliefs and old programs speeds this process up considerably.
  3. Relax into the flow of life – This takes massive doses of acceptance. Acceptance of you, your partners, the situations you find yourself in, and everything in between. Start practicing relaxing into the moment and observing instead of pushing your agenda.

You are so beautiful and radiant and lovable and all it takes is for you to start to see and feel this within you.

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Love, love, love

Salenta

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The Power of Letting People In (My Breast Implant Illness Story) | LoveExpanded Challenge Day 6

The Power of Letting People In (My Breast Implant Illness Story) | LoveExpanded Challenge Day 6

Power of letting people in is far greater than I knew before. Not only is this my booby story but also my experience with the LoveExpanded Challenge so far.

The Power Of Letting People In

The number one thing I am learning during this LoveExpanded Challenge is that letting others IN feels good! By opening up and sharing who I am with the world I not only feel good but it is literally expanding my love within me. When I open up to share, which is giving essentially, I open the flow of energy to receive in turn. I did not open to receive but have found this to be an added bonus.

I invite you to open as well and share of yourself in a way you normally do not as a way of opening your energy and allowing love to flow in your life.

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Love, love, love

Salenta

 

How To Open Yourself Up To Receive What You Deserve – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 5

How To Open Yourself Up To Receive What You Deserve – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 5.

Are you shutting out the very things you desire most? Are you energetically pushing away the love, the money, the things, the attention, and the affection you really know you deserve and you really do desire?

If you answered yes, you are not alone. You are probably doing it without even knowing it, and if you are, don’t fret, there is a way out.

HOW TO SOLVE THIS?

As with most things, being aware of the issue is the first step, even though it also turns out to be the hardest at times. How to open yourself up to receive what you deserve does not have to be tricky, but it will take effort if you do this unconsciously (which most of us do).

When I say effort, I mean intention and awareness, what I am really saying is you got to want this and align your actions and energy with what you want.

For instance, if you want more likeminded friends but never leave the house, make negative jokes around new people say you don’t like people or keep to yourself when you do go out, what do you think your energy is saying? Energy speaks far louder than words. In fact, energy is a fog horn blaring out the truth and no matter what you say, if your energy is emitting the opposite, you are f*cked. And not in the good way, sorry.

Opening your energy is aligning your actions to your desire, but, its a bit more subtle than this too. Actions can open your energy. Declarations can too. But what I have found to be the best solution is addressing the thing that closed you down in the first place?

Why did you shut down? It is just something that happened over time? Did you have a negative experience? Where you hurt why someone or a situation that closed you?

Or is it the mother load of all things shut down… YOU DO NOT FEEL LIKE YOU DESERVE THE GOOD THINGS IN LIFE!!

DING, DING… if you picked this last reason you are at the right place at the right time!! And please be kind to yourself, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!

I guarantee underneath all energetic barriers blocking what you, me, or anyone truly desires is this feeling of not deserving it, not measuring up, and not being good enough to receive it. I don’t care if you are blocking money, love, sex, things, or people, this little/huge thing is usually to blame.

But, instead of blaming (which is such a “last years” way to relate)let’ss upgrade a bit and come at it from a conscious love place and deal with it already.

HOW TO DEAL WITH IT

Addressing the ‘not enoughness’ is what has to happen. Clearing this shit out, because that’s exactly what it is, shit. WELL, MORE PRECISELY IT’S AN OLD PROGRAM. By upgrading the voice in your head, clearing away the negative experience validating this belief as truth, and then filling this area with divine love and lightening up, you are on your way to allowing what you desire in.

I use Quantum Emotional Clearing (QEC). It’s a tapping technique that reroutes neuropathways, energetically lightens you up, and satisfies that voice in your head all that the same time. If I lived in Salem I’d be burned at the stake cause this seems like magic, but, its science instead. It’s powerful, effective and lasting.

There are other techniques out there too so find what works for you. But for your own sake, find something, and start allowing and letting in all that goodness you more than deserve.

Life is to be enjoyed, life it to be full and happy. There is enough negativity that will naturally happen to balance things out, but let’s take action and have a clear intention to bring more goodness in.

If this article was beneficial you might enjoy the complete LoveExpanded Series on YouTube. And if you are ready to let go of your old programs and upgrade, book a time to chat to see if I can assist you. 

Love, love, love

Salenta

 

How to Get Over Guilt And Shame – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 4

How to get over guilt and shame – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 4 deals with something not unique to me, but something humanity deals with. Guilt and shame like to lurk under the surface no matter who you are.

The first thing I’d like to address is the illusion of having a perfect looking life. I call bullshit. At some point no matter how things look, shits going down under the surface.  Bringing it to the surface does not make you wrong or weak – and don’t allow anyone to make you feel that way. Talking about how you feel is healthy. Bringing the sneaky little lies up to the light is not only healthy but necessary to lower the power these energies have over you. When you don’t talk about it you feel alone, but when you are able to acknowledge it, even just to yourself in the light of day, you can start to see guilt and shame as the dirty little liars they are because 90% of all the guilt and shame you are carrying around is a lie.

Addressing and acknowledging feelings, underlying driving forces, and emotions is the first step to clearing them up, this is a powerful tool.

I am learning so much already and this is only day 4.

The big take away. Just by acknowledging these insecurities and thoughts in my heard to myself makes them dissolve and it makes me feel so much better, I hope the same can happen for you by coming along on this journey and Expanding Your Love Too.

If you are struggling with guilt and shame and you feel its keeping you stuck – drop me a message and I’d love to share my tools with you. Schedule a free chat to see if we’re a good fit. 

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Love, love, love

Salenta

How To Have More Self-Acceptance – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 3

Do you motivate yourself through fear or love? How to have more self-acceptance is a topic everyone faces because the default is to be hard on oneself. Well, stop it already!! Although motivating oneself through love is a more effective option, motivation through fear is by far the more common.

If you are raising little humans or yourself, I encourage and invite you to have more self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is as easy as acknowledging where you are in your successes and the places you can improve on. You might think by acknowledging and accepting the behavior you want to improve on you are condoning it, but actually, the opposite is true. By acknowledging where you with no judgment you do accept it, yes, but more importantly, you are creating a soft, loving, compassionate place to move forward and improve from.

Self-acceptance is love. Being hard on yourself is not love.

Practicing self-acceptance is one of the best ways to love yourself and the more you practice it the easier it becomes. And by practicing self-acceptance you make it a habit.

Mom moments, mom guilt, and all the other things life throws you might pile onto yourself, I invite you to let it all go for a moment. Allow it to dissolve and embrace the lightness that can follow when you shift this to a place of love instead.

Conscious Relationships

Conscious relationships start with how you love yourself. Conscious relationships relate to all relationships you have including the ones with your children. 

If conscious relationships are of interest to you and how to have more love starting with you, then the LoveExpanded Membership Site might be what you have been looking for. It launches early Spring 2019. Get on the list to receive early content and exclusive premium offers.

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Happy loving.

Love, love, love

Salenta

How To Be A Master Of Love – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 2

How to be a master of love? I have asked this question for 10 years now and have been studying, interviewing, researching and living from love as much as possible. My goal this year was to expand my love, and even though I focused on it this challenge makes it REAL yo! This is day 2 of the love expanded challenge, also called the LoveExpanded challenge or love expanded for short.

As a love consultant and coach, self-love is very important to me. Loving yourself and knowing how to love yourself is the cornerstone to any successful relationship.  A relationship takes more than just love to work, although love is one of the key components, respect, acceptance and many other factors make a good relationship. Before you can have respect and acceptance for another you have to have love, self-acceptance, and self-respect for yourself.

You and I are both lovers at heart, all humans are. It is all the other “stuff” piled on top of it that hides this. Life experience can also get in the way. How you received love as a child or the lack of love you received as a child all plays into how you love now. Sometimes how you love now is not healthy because of this conditioning and modeling. How you love is not your fault at the start, but how you love now is in your control.

You have control to change the way you love. You have control to change the way you give it, what you allow, what you accept and how you reciprocate. Yes, at the core you are love, but how you display it is practiced.

If you know this is an area you can work on, you are in the right place… welcome fellow lover!! This site, this challenge, and this work is all for you to guide you to be the lover you already are at your core. Love, love, love, you. The member site will be up and running soon for exclusive content and a new course to do just this.

The LoveExpanded Membership Site is in construction and will be up early Spring 2019, join our list to get updates.

(Side note)  This challenge is expanding not only my love, buy myself too. My resistance to making video has been strong and this project is a way to discover how to get over the fear of making video and how to find my voice.

What are you afraid of?

I challenge you to take on your fears too and overcome them by diving in and doing them. Action dissolves fear.

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Here is a link to the first post in the series called How To Love Myself Again.

Love, love, love

Salenta

How To Love Myself Again – LoveExpanded Challenge Day 1

How to love myself again after surgery and not feeling so great. This is the first day of my LoveExpanded Challenge.

It’s easy to love myself when everything is going well, but a lot harder to love myself again when life hits full force. But, when life hits, this is the very time to love myself again with even more force than before.

Life feels like it’s been hitting hard the last 3 years with my health being one of the areas feeling off. Even though I had been eating well (organic, grass-fed, little to no gluten, low sugar) I still did not feel 100%. When I was doing a cleanse I felt good, as soon as I stopped, I would feel terrible. A few weeks ago things go bad. For someone who has always been healthy and into all things natural, I got a headache that would not go away. After going to conventional doctors with all sorts of test and still no solution, I went within and asked my body what the deal was. The answer I got back surprised me, my breast augmentation, it was poisoning me.

I read about breast implant illness a year or so ago and was planning to get my implants out early 2019, but this increased the urgency. Could this really be making me sick? The first 5 symptoms on the list I had, but the list had so many things on it that the first time I read through it I discounted it.

I took a chance and had the surgery. THE NEXT DAY THE HEADACHE WAS GONE. Coincidence? I think not.

This is my 365-day journey to recovery, but more importantly, my journey exploring love, self-love, inner love, conscious love, fierce love, partner love, romantic love and all the other loves in between.

When one says “love” the first place the mind goes is Romantic Love. But love is so much more. THIS CHALLENGE IS MY WAY OF demonstrating all types of love first hand in an upfront live and personal way.

This challenge uncovers, demonstrates, and shows how to incorporate love into every area of life to live a more fulfilled, satisfied, and even productive life.

This is the first video in the 365-day series. Catch them all!

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