Harvard Study On What Actually Makes Us Most Happy & Healthy

When it comes down to it, being more connected and having someone in your life you know you can count on, not only creates more happiness now in your life, but also predicts how healthy you will be in old age.

Here are some highlights from this study that tracks 724 men over 75 years. 60 of these men are still alive, most in their nineties, with one of the participants being a US president.

Good relationships make us happier and healthier.

Important messages and 3 Big lessons from this study. Some of the highlights.

  • Social connections are really good for us, and loneliness kills. 7:50
  • Loneliness is toxic. 7:58 (1 in 5 people are lonely at any given time.)
  • It’s the quality of your close relationships that make all the difference. 8:40
  • Conflict is really bad for our health. High conflict marriages without much affection is worst for us than getting divorced. 8:51
  • Living in loving relationship is protective. 9:02
  • How satisfies you are in your relationships predicts how long you will live and how healthy you will be at old age.  9:09
  • Good close relationships buffer us from physical pain.  9:45
  • Being in a good secure relationship in your 80’s, where you really feel like you can count on the other person in times of need, those people’s memories are better longer. 10:25

Conclusion, foster and put time into your relationships now for more well being in all areas of life.

Love Love Love

Salenta

10 Fundamental Keys to A Successful Long Term Marriage/Partnership

There are many reasons people get married, and falling in love with someone is only one.

Others get married to not be alone, for convenience, for citizenship, for land ownership in foreign countries, for children, for money, and everything in between.

But if you truly want to have a fulfilling relationship where both partners are on the same page, with the capability to work through the inevitable rocky storms that will ensure, some fundamental things have to be in place for a successful partnership that stands the test of time.

There are many reasons marriages do not work, and I’m not convinced it’s the institution that’s to blame, I believe it’s the people within them lacking the skills to navigate such an arrangement that is more likely the culprit.

I recently saw this post on Facebook.

“When I see people younger than 30 getting engaged I just want to yell, “ruuuuunnnnnn!” Or “your first marriage will be a good learning experience… try to wait to have kids.” Am I too cynical?”

While I am all for waiting a few years to get hitched, especially living in Utah, on the other hand, the idea that age has anything to do with a successful relationship is a bit naïve too.

I work with people on their second, third or fourth marriages, ages ranging from 20’s to 60’s and age has very little to do with anything. There are 60 year olds who still have not got themselves or relationships figured out yet.

What I have found is there are some key factors that make relating and navigating any relationship, especially an intimate one, vital.

The following factors are essential for the possibility of a lasting long-term relationship and partnership, and a happy life. (The last is just a bonus)

First, you need to know why you want to get hitched. Not that any reason is better than another, but knowing brings awareness, and once you know why, then you better know how to proceed.

Discussing this and bringing it to the surface before the knot is tied if possible, reveals expectations (usually there a boat load more) and you can agree or disagree if those works for each party.

When two people get together unspoken agreements are made, this way you are conscious instead of unconscious of what is really going on beneath the surface.

Second, what are the subtle hidden insecurities? Clearing and addressing these insecurities before the big day, or after, opens the space for a healthier clearer start and future.

It eliminates greatly you projecting all your funk onto the other person and brining things that can be avoided into the mix.

Ideally, addressing these and clearing them with someone who knows how makes for even smoother roads. Just knowing and then blaming stuff that comes up on the insecurities is not productive.

Don’t hide behind them, but resolve and move forward in love and openness instead.

Third, honesty. Make an agreement to always be honest. I mean taking honesty to a whole new level. Not just telling the truth, but telling the sometimes brutal truth, and nothing but the truth.

Telling it how it is even if you might hurt the others feelings. Not hiding or keeping things from the other to protect them. Always coming from love and sharing in a loving way, but, knowing that being honest is the most loving thing you can do.

Forth, being transparent and not taking the other persons stuff personally. People see right through you anyway, if you want to believe it or not. So, lay your cards out on the table. Don’t hide, be upfront. This goes along with honestly, but, it goes deeper.

This means you allow each other to talk about your deepest feelings and insecurities, hurts and pains, and can tell the other how you are feeling without taking it personally.

You realize what you are hearing from the other is their experience and probably has nothing to do with you, and if it does, have the maturity level to look at yourself and address it.

Firth, have a firm sense of self. Know who you are. This is an unfolding, and age does play into this, but it’s more about allowing your true self to come forward. Exploring who you are, accepting who you are, and being okay with you just as you are today – self-love.

Once you do this, you will attract someone who is most likely in the same place, (please pick someone in the same place) and you are 100% further ahead than most couples. And if you are not in this place, start working at fining out who you are and loving what you find, it is never too late.

Sixth, discuss the idea of purpose within the relationship. Being in such close proximity with another human will bring up all sorts of “stuff” and is an excellent place for you to grow and evolve.

Being aware of purpose, and discussing what the purpose within your partnership is, separately and joined, makes for common goals and objectives. These will change and morph as time goes on, and as each of you change, so keep in mind this is not a one time thing.

Having a common goal is one of the main things that happy and successful partnerships have.

My favorite purpose for relationships: deciding this is a container and vehicle for growth, a place of free expression with both of you constantly striving to express more of who you are and growing within this. You will show me areas I can improve on, and I will show you this too, all in a loving supportive way.

Seventh, bring consciousness and awareness into the partnership.
I cannot tell you how many people I have spoken to who are divorced or getting divorced who only got married because it seemed like the next thing to do. There was no real thought that went into it.

All the things stated above require a level of consciousness and awareness, but, if this is new to you. Work on it. Find out what this is and what it means, and get to adding into your life.

Be aware of why you do things. Ask why. What’s really behind this feeling, behavior, or action? How is this thing the other person is doing really about me, and not them?

Instead of always blaming them when things go wrong, turn it onto you first. Use the relationship as a way to grow and expand, clean house, and become the best version of you. Not because they want you to be, but because you want to be.

Ask if you are projecting your insecurities and “stuff” onto them, and pretty much 99% of the time, the answer will be, you are.

Get to work on YOU, and something magical will happen, suddenly the other person will change too.

Eight, emotional maturity. Oh boy, this is a biggy. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, to share, and be open with your feelings. Emotional maturity is really a culmination of the things on this page, but it also includes being emotionally available.

How you do this is allow yourself to feel. Be brave enough to share those feelings openly and honestly, with yourself first, and then your partner. Cultivate listening and being genuinely interested in your partner. Set a time aside regularly to just talk and explore each other, like you would a friend.

Being available means you are there for each other on an emotional level, if you do not understand the other, work at it, ask more questions, ask them what they need from you, and then do your best to do it, even if it’s hard and feels uncomfortable. No hiding.

Sixth, accountability. Take responsibility for your own shit, own it, no projecting your stuff onto them. Next time you accuse them of something, turn it around to you and ask if you have this trait. It’s usually something within you, you are not satisfied with that is annoying you in them.

Address it in you first, and see what happens. You will be surprised it might just vanish in them automatically.

Nine, ability to get over yourself. The world does not revolve around you. Not everything is about you and most likely when there is something up with your partner, it has nothing to do with you.

Hear them, remove yourself from the equation and be there for support. Show them love, ask them questions and see how you can both work through the issue together. This means dropping the defenses, excuses and need to validate yourself, your wounds and your actions. Be open instead for solutions and growing together.

Ten, be in an attitude of serving, what can I give, not what can I get. You would be surprised to see what happens when you shift your attitude. Maybe you have been together for months or years, no matter.

Consciously shift into a mindset of what can I do to make the other persons experience better? What can I do to serve them today and show I care for them and love them?

These can be little and big things, and they make the world of difference. They not only cultivate love, but passion and admiration too. Both of which will fade with time if not actively cultivated and grown.

Happy loving. And make this fun, use your partnership to grow and evolve personally and together too, it’s fun, challenging, and will bring you closer than ever before.

An extra tip for success… LIGHTEN UP!! Life is serious enough, your relationship does not have to be. Add playfulness and lightheartedness into the mix, especially when exploring and navigating some of these areas that may be harder for you.

Life is more fun with copious amounts of joy… so add in joy and start laughing at all your silliness instead of crying or yelling. I dare you 😉

Love Love Love
Salenta

Feel More Safe With Better Boundaries…

I write for other magazines too…  this article is published @ www.overthemoonmag.com. Start reading here and find the rest at the link.

“Until you feel safe within, nothing outside will feel safe and secure. He or she might promise you the world, and even deliver, but you will still feel insecure and want more, their offerings never being enough.

Can you relate?

Safety is your foundation. It’s the core — from here everything else is built. Only when you have this within can you feel it from others.

Safety and love go together. You tend to seek safety from love, or more like your lover. But this only holds true when applied to YOU. You feel safe when you love yourself and create good boundaries, and you do that by loving yourself.

The more you LOVE YOURSELF, the easier it is to create safety within you. The more love there is, the more safety there is.

How do you get this safety from within if someone on the outside cannot provide it to you?

Let’s first establish where safety is NOT found:

Safety is not found in gripping to what you know, or the past.

Safety is not found in… Continue Reading

Love love love

Salenta

3 Powerful Steps to Forgive the Past, and Create The Relationships You Desire.

When you hold onto the past, it is difficult to create a new reality or get different results.

This relates to relationships as well as to anything.

All this talk of creating the life you desire. This is different from attracting the life you desire, something you hear thrown around a lot. Let me clarify,  creating is you being active and taking action, this is where the real result come.

But, until your energy field is clear of the old, you will be attracting what you do not want, making it difficult to create and bring in what you do want.
What does forgiveness have to do with creating the relationship you desire?

It turns out you really do create the world around you by the vibrations and energies you emit and send out all day long. To create a different experience it is said, you have to ‘be’ different, but how do you do this?

I had a first hand experience with this, where my past was impacting my present without me even knowing it.

Let me share what I found.

First, it’s important to realize there are no secrets.

No matter how hard you try to hide, withhold, and keep down, you are a transparent being and people can SEE you NO MATTER WHAT.

They see your demons, feel them, and know they are there, even if you deny them. You carry contempt for a past lover, new lovers feel it, and it does not bide well for your new potential partnership

The more aware your crowd becomes, the more the issue of hiding just becomes laughable. People ‘feel’ what’s going on even if they don’t know ‘exactly’ what they are feeling, but they will respond accordingly.

Even the most unconscious person still see’s, unless they are choosing not to.

I’ve been through some ‘stuff’ like most people, and some of it’s not too rosy. There was some abuse in my life that I kinda just swept under the rug, not just a one time thing, but things sprinkled throughout my life. I don’t think I even really acknowledged how bad it was or how much it impacted my life, I had the rose colored glasses syndrome, or just the denial syndrome ;).

I essentially was hiding it, even from me, but it was not hidden at all. I was still vibrating it, it was still in my energy field and aside from attracting other situations into my life that hurt me also, others could consciously detect this too.

Having it still linger was influencing my NOW experience.

About a year ago I fell ill and knew it was time for an upgrade. Within two weeks, two messengers came to me, a close friend and an acquaintance, both with the same message.

Both could see and feel this abuse around me I was denying or wanted no one to know about. But they saw is, clear as day. And they could also see how me denying it was hurting me.

This was a good lesson, and opened the space for me to acknowledge, heal, clear, and move forward.

The first step, be upfront and transparent from the beginning, this means with YOU FIRST.

Second, forgiveness, and this means forgetting too.

Yes, forgiveness. And no, this is not church. But all those religions have it right because this is a universal truth. Forgiveness has a power greater than most even comprehend.

I attended an Energy Conference in Bermuda and the science of it. Dr Vitaliy, a Russian scientist has been studying energy for almost 3 decades and as he was explaining the energy fields around the body, and demonstrating on someone from the audience, he first tested and showed all the imbalances in the man’s field, then, to my surprise, as he was showing us how to bring the man back into balance, before he did anything, he asked the man to first ask himself for forgiveness. Now remember, Dr Vitaliy is a scientist, so this really surprised me!

The man did it, the Dr. tested again and suddenly just like that, the man was all balanced, nothing more needed to be done.

Miracle? Maybe, or this is just natural law at work. Forgiveness is powerful.

After identifying, forgive yourself and those who might have harmed you.

It’s in the forgiving that the magic happens, and all the shmoots can be released, just like that, instantly.

Forgiveness is as simple as telling yourself, “I forgive you.” It is important to forgive those who harmed you too.

Third, to forgive, you have to forget about the wrong. I know you have heard this before, but how do you do it?

Without forgetting the energy is still trapped, and will come back to haunt you, so to speak.

In my own process of forgiveness my mentor and friend explaining forgiveness is not complete or does not work without forgetting the wrong done.

Forgetting means not talking about it anymore, not thinking about it anymore and replacing the past negative thoughts and stories, with positive thoughts around the same person that hurt you.

When you think of that time in your life, or that person, you reprogram yourself to have good memories that bring good feelings.

By doing so you lighten up, and change the vibration around you clearing your energetic imprint of what happened.

This way you start to vibrate and radiate the good feelings instead of the hurt and wound. You clear the space for new to come in.

You clear the space to let in a fresh new love that is more supportive and loving. (This is not only effective for past lovers, but for anyone who harmed you.)

I know that sometimes you might have to dig hard to find something good, but there always is something.

Forth, the power of the word.

You create with your words. You can believe this or not, it’s still true. Gravity is going to pull down despite your belief, this concept works the same way.

Start speaking what you desire.

Only speak in terms of what you want. Stop speaking about all the sh*t that happened in the past, let go of those stories and start telling stories that describe the life and experiences you desire now.

You might contest and say this is not true, but, the more you speak it, the more it will be true.

Forgiveness means forgetting what happened. This means changing the story, let go of the old story, stop talking about what you don’t want, and start talking about what to do want.

Start speaking about your relationships in terms of what you desire most now, like it’s already happened, like you already have it.

To demonstrate just how powerful your stories are, and the energy they carry, let me tell you a brief story, no pun intended. 😉

I was on a field trip with the kids, the weekly ice-skating outing in the winter. I am still a beginner, but after about 30 min I had gotten my feet under me, and I was feeling and skating pretty well.

I started speaking about an incident in my marriage around why I stopped liking skiing with another mother. I recounted a traumatic incident and as I did so I instantly noticed my feelings change, my body became tense, a thickness developed in my thought and sternum, and to my surprise, I also noticed my skating changed dramatically for the worse.

I started skating again like I had 30 min earlier. The negative emotion brought forward by the story had not only effected how I felt in my body but my outward experience and performance too. I felt like I was going to fall down, that is how much it impacted me.

I stopped talking immediately after realizing this and started focusing on more positive things, and realized in that moment just how powerful that story was, and I decided I no longer needed that story. I no longer needed to feel so low, so overcome, and so bad.

I chose to feel good and light and limitless instead. I chose to release all those stories and recreate my memories. I was the one who created them in the first place, why not create one’s that bring me more of what I desire and made me feel powerful instead of weak.

Let’s recap.

1) There are no secrets, be honest with yourself first. Release the hurt and pain you are carrying from your past.

You are emitting the vibration of what you are hiding and it’s not hidden at all, and you are most likely still attracting similar situations to you.

2) Forgive. You are infinite and good and nothing that has happened cannot be forgiven. You are divine. You are pure.

And it is not only okay, but imperative that you allow yourself to be forgiven and forgive those you feel have harmed you.

It will change your life, your health, and what you are sending out to the world. You are worthy of good things.

3) Forget and release the negative stories. Your words are powerful creators. To change your experience and what you get back, you have to change the input.

Start speaking about what you want, and never stop.

Speak in the positive, “Please keep your clothes in your closet or in the hamper”, not the negative, “Don’t leave your clothes on the floor.”

You are powerful. You can change your life experience. You can create the relationship you desire, but there is work to be done. Creation take effort, you cannot just sit there are wait for life to happen to you.

Forgiveness is powerful, until you forgive your past lovers, it will be hard to attract, and let in, a new relationship.

Forgive your current lovers too, you might be surprised at the changes that come about once you release them.

No one wants to be with someone who is bitter and still in hate. They can feel it.

This will not only change what you create in your experience, you will also feel better, lighter, more free, more alive, more vibrant.

love love love
Salenta

ps… Please leave a comment, I would love to know your thoughts and please share experiences you have had with this, you would be surprised how much your input helps others.

A New Way To See Valentines Day… and totally revolutionize your relationship all year long.

Young happy couple by Milenko Đilas on 500px.com

 

Valentines day. You either love it or hate it.

And this depends a lot on your relationships status.

Even if you do have someone, you might hate it because of the obligation to do something “romantic” or “do anything at all” on this day.

For all you haters, I can relate to the resistance at being told to do something, but come on.

This is love.

If you are resentful at expressing your love to the one you are with, there is something wrong.

Even if it’s just your attitude.

Too many people are in relationships for all of the practical reasons but forget to celebrate each other and their union.

Personally, I love celebrating, EVERYTHING. Any excuse to celebrate, I take it. Birthday’s? More like birthday months. Going out to dinner, when they ask if it’s a special occasion, we always say yes, “we are celebrating”. When they ask what, “we say life.”

I like it, it makes me feel good and happy.

What if you viewed your love this way.

What if, instead of dreading this day you feel obligated to express your love and affections on, you see it as a day to celebrate.

 

Celebrate yourself, your lover, and your union.

While I’m at it let’s get even more crazy!

I suggest using Valentines day as a reminder to celebrate your love not just once a year on the holiday of love, but every day, EVERY WEEK.

Daily appreciating what you have and who you are with.

At least one day a week set a time and space to come together, just the two of you, to celebrate and enjoy the love you have.

Call it a date if you will. But set up a time and get a babysitter.

Do something that actually takes effort and thought to show your lover they mean the world to you.

Go out, bring her flowers, buy him something small you know he loves, do something together, take a class, but allot a specific time to spend together even if its going on a walk and talking.

Set a time and place. Put it on the calendar.

The act, or what you do, is less important than the commitment to put energy into your union each week.

 

So stop complaining about having to get off your lazy ass and actually do something to express your love to this person you supposedly love and care for, and up your game already!

 

These days there are lots of options out there. You no longer stay with someone for necessity and survival like times of old. You are with someone because it feels good, for pleasure, and interactive companionship.

Take your union for granted long enough and the other will leave. Neglect to allot specific time to build and grow your union and it’s going to fade. You will grow apart and eventually someone will leave.

Instead, celebrate.

Cherish what you have. It’s a gift.

 

Love is a living thing, and without constant care, nurturing, and growing, it dies.

Celebrate your love everyday in smaller ways and in attitude and spirit, and at least once a week, if not more in a bigger way, put energy into building and growing what you say you care about. Your love. Your partner.

Actions are what count. Make time.

What you focus on expands, so focus on your love and it’s only going to grow stronger.

Happy loving.

love love love
Salenta

ps… I love hearing your thoughts and opinions. Please share. And… if you have any fun ideas or ways you celebrate your love, big or small, please share it below. 

Expectations Kill Relationships: A Healthier Alternative

You know expectations suck.  You don’t like them put on you.

And, I know it’s hard not to project your expectations onto someone else when you know what you want.

So, here is the alternative.

What if you can look at each experience with someone as a complete experience, nothing more and nothing less. Just see it for what it is, enjoy it, and if you never see that person again, fine, you have the beauty of it to remember and cherish always.

And, if you do happen to see that person again, it can be added to the pile of experiences with them, creating the depth and span of something great, however it looks.

love love love

Salenta

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Conscious Dating Discussion with Brandon Boucher

A discussion on dating, how to get the girl, what he did before he even met her, the balance and dance between the divine masculine and feminine, and the difference between what Partnership is vs. Relationship. ♥

Brandon listened to an interview I conducted a few months ago with Drew Gerald on Conscious Dating, after applying some of those techniques discusses Brandon connected with a beautiful women and their love and connection is now flourishing.

Brandon shares what he did and how the dynamic between two people can change when you change the way you relate first with yourself, and from the very beginning of ‘dating’.

Thank you Brandon for sharing your success story and also for the tips on what worked for you.

love love love

Salenta

PS… What did you think of this? What has been your experience with conscious dating? please share your comments below, I would love to hear from you 🙂 

How to Find Value in the Darkness

The darkness in life will inevitably come, it’s up to you how you use it.

In those dark hours of your life you have two choices. You can take the darkness and ask for its message, or you can take the darkness and waste it by feeling sorry for yourself and playing the victim. 

The darkness is your friend. The darkest hours of your life are your most trusted teachers. They will never lead you astray or tell you a false message. They will be blunt, they may cut to the core, but they will always tell you the truth if you are willing to ask questions and see the truth.

The truth is not always pretty. And the darker the hour, usually the harsher the truth coming forth. All the truth wants is to see the light of day. To be resolved in the truth and absolved in the light. The dark comes to remind you, to urge you. There is something you are not seeing, something you are not addressing. What is out of alignment in your life?

If you are willing to ask the question, you might be willing to see the answer.

Open your eyes and see. Open your heart and listen.

 What wants to come forth thru you? What wants to be freed by being seen? Some times all that is needed is acknowledgement; all that is needed is to just shine some light into the darkness. By asking the question you turn on the light.

Darkness cannot be where light is.

 

Love Love Love

Salenta

My Poem:

I wrote this poem several years ago on October 16, 2009 and I think if I had written it now, it would look a bit different, but that is just a given. I wanted to share it in celebration of February, the month of love. I am committed to love this month and expanding the view of what it is, whom it is for, and possibly even how it looks.

Tune in for the next post where I talk about what love will bring out in my soul in the year 2015…

 

Love is pure

Love is free

Love is simple, effortless, flowing easily and natural.

Love is sharing a part of you with another human being, accepting another for all they are.

It’s looking into someone else’s eyes and seeing something more than just the outward appearance. It’s taking someone else for all they are regardless of how they look, what they do, what they do not do; it’s unconditional, hinging on nothing external. It’s looking into someone’s eyes and seeing their soul.

Love is gentle, playful, friendly

Love is sharing, giving, expanding

Love is touching, listening, hearing, being interested in another person.

Love is allowing another’s love into your heart.

Love is breathing a part of them in every time your lips meet.

Love is that incredible burning feeling within your bosom the kind that excites you and uplifts you and makes you want to break out in dance or song, simply finding some way to release the feeling of pure joy overflowing from your heart.

Love is passion, sensuality, warmth

Love is two souls meeting in an explosion of magic and electricity

Love is the desire to share your life with someone else not because you need them there to feel whole but to have someone to share that wholeness with

Love is kind, forgiving, caring

Love is within each of us

Love is …

EVERYTHING

<3

 

Salenta Fox

How to Gracefully and Tactfully say NO to a Romantic Advancement

Okay, so this was something I struggled with a lot. So much so, that, in the past, I would rather give my number to someone I had no interest in and deal with the hassle of them contacting me all the time, then have to tell them I was not interested. Let me tell you, that was a lot more work and I got myself into some sticky situations, instead of just politely saying ‘no’ right in the beginning.

So, what do you say when someone you are not interested in asks for your number or a date? You don’t want to be rude, nor do you want the situation to be awkward and turn weird.

This is what I do, and I welcome an open discussion on the topic, male and female opinions alike.

For me, I have come to find that the simplest and most effective way is to just say “no thank you.” I saw this on a movie and it was so natural, effortless, and easy, and neither person felt uncomfortable. I thought, if it’s that easy in the movies, it has to be similar in real life. And guess what, it is. The way it is delivered makes all the difference. If you feel awkward or uncomfortable, most likely so will he/she. So lighten up!! Delivery of the message in a calm, friendly, flattered tone puts both of you at ease. 

When asked for my phone number now, I say, “Oh I’m flattered but, no thanks”, “I don’t think so, but thank you.” When asked if I would like to go out, “I don’t think that would be a good idea for me, but thanks for asking.”

It’s that simple.

You don’t have to make up excuses, you don’t have to lie and say you have a boyfriend, you don’t have to feel weird and panicked when this happens. I have even said, “I am unavailable.” Just because you are single does not mean you are available.

Be polite and be honest. I guarantee you are saving yourself lots of time, and even more awkward moments than if you string someone along just because you did not know how to say no in a nice way.

Nice girls, don’t think you have to be bitches when declining an offer, or that declining an offer is bitchy. If you are still nice, light hearted and easy going, and have those words roll off your tongue like it ain’t no thang… guess what… it ain’t. 

Life is too short to stress over how to say no. Know your boundaries and be so comfortable in them that you effortlessly deliver them to others. You don’t have to feel all calm inside the first few times this happens, you just have to act calm and the calm will come.

The more you say ‘no’ in other areas of your life the easier it will get to say ‘no’ in this area. You are most likely the type of person who can’t say ‘no’ to people you want love or respect from, and that could mean everyone in your life. Start getting comfortable saying ‘no’ in a nice, easy way, and people will start taking it in a nice easy way. People tend to mirror and project back to you the emotions and tone you have.

So next time you are out and a guy is making the move but you are just not feeling it…. just say “no thanks.” Do what your mamma taught you around shady situations as a teen 😉 JUST SAY NO!!

Life can be a lot more simple when you lighten up, know what you want, and are firm and comfortable in standing by that. Practice brings this comfort, so get to it already.

Love Love Love

Salenta

 

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