Valentines day. You either love it or hate it.
And this depends a lot on your relationships status.
Even if you do have someone, you might hate it because of the obligation to do something “romantic” or “do anything at all” on this day.
For all you haters, I can relate to the resistance at being told to do something, but come on.
This is love.
If you are resentful at expressing your love to the one you are with, there is something wrong.
Even if it’s just your attitude.
Too many people are in relationships for all of the practical reasons but forget to celebrate each other and their union.
Personally, I love celebrating, EVERYTHING. Any excuse to celebrate, I take it. Birthday’s? More like birthday months. Going out to dinner, when they ask if it’s a special occasion, we always say yes, “we are celebrating”. When they ask what, “we say life.”
I like it, it makes me feel good and happy.
What if you viewed your love this way.
What if, instead of dreading this day you feel obligated to express your love and affections on, you see it as a day to celebrate.
Celebrate yourself, your lover, and your union.
While I’m at it let’s get even more crazy!
I suggest using Valentines day as a reminder to celebrate your love not just once a year on the holiday of love, but every day, EVERY WEEK.
Daily appreciating what you have and who you are with.
At least one day a week set a time and space to come together, just the two of you, to celebrate and enjoy the love you have.
Call it a date if you will. But set up a time and get a babysitter.
Do something that actually takes effort and thought to show your lover they mean the world to you.
Go out, bring her flowers, buy him something small you know he loves, do something together, take a class, but allot a specific time to spend together even if its going on a walk and talking.
Set a time and place. Put it on the calendar.
The act, or what you do, is less important than the commitment to put energy into your union each week.
So stop complaining about having to get off your lazy ass and actually do something to express your love to this person you supposedly love and care for, and up your game already!
These days there are lots of options out there. You no longer stay with someone for necessity and survival like times of old. You are with someone because it feels good, for pleasure, and interactive companionship.
Take your union for granted long enough and the other will leave. Neglect to allot specific time to build and grow your union and it’s going to fade. You will grow apart and eventually someone will leave.
Cherish what you have. It’s a gift.
Love is a living thing, and without constant care, nurturing, and growing, it dies.
Celebrate your love everyday in smaller ways and in attitude and spirit, and at least once a week, if not more in a bigger way, put energy into building and growing what you say you care about. Your love. Your partner.
Actions are what count. Make time.
What you focus on expands, so focus on your love and it’s only going to grow stronger.
love love love
ps… I love hearing your thoughts and opinions. Please share. And… if you have any fun ideas or ways you celebrate your love, big or small, please share it below.